All day long I listen to high school girls complain about boys. All night long I listen to my single adult friends complain about “men”. And all I want to say to them is, Seriously, STOP dating someone you don’t even like.
We have all had the toxic relationships where we have so much chemistry with a person that our brain tricks us into thinking they are “the one.” Well I have news folks, that is a pheromone thing sometimes, not fate knocking on your door. We all need to take a step back from dating to see what we really want from a relationship. If the person we are with is not providing that, and we aren’t married, it is time to say good bye.
I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend now for a year. They have broken up a few times, because they can’t provide what the other needs. However, they always come back. (I am telling you it’s the pheromones!) Recently they have been on the track to be broken up. She doesn’t like that he can’t tell her he loves her, and he doesn’t like that she is so in need of that. This to her is an essential part of the relationship because she doesn’t want to be with someone for this long that doesn’t love her. So my question is why are they still together? Why do we wait for something that may never happen? Isn’t there some breaking point that has to be the end all?
For many relationships I see there is so much compromise, and chipping away at who the people are. Isn’t the point of a relationship to better yourself and the other person, not to break each other down? I need to go with Shakesphere on this one, “It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” And for some of the people out there it is time for them to lose the person they are with before they lose themselves!
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